The Emotional Case For Assisted Living

As the daughter of an elderly mother, you know all too well the degree to which the medical community has come to the rescue for your family following your mom's injury. The recommended next move is to relocate her to an assisted-living facility, and the decision is weighing on your shoulders. 

No doubt it's a big decision for you both financially and emotionally. On the finance side, the average monthly price tag for a one-bedroom assisted living unit was $3,500 as of 2014, and that number tends to rise with inflation. However, finances aren't your only deciding factor.

Making the move to assisted living is very much an emotional choice as well, one you don't want to live to regret. Here are some assisted-living features that can ease your emotional burden.


Just because your mom will be moving to assisted living doesn't mean she has to stop doing the things she enjoys once she heals. When you're searching for the right facility, ask if you can visit during group activities, such as dancing or a wine social (yes, they have these!) Find out what the participation level is like among residents, and take notice of the number of smiles around the room. If the group is having a good time, chances are your mom would too.

You may be concerned that an activity such as dancing could increase the likelihood for another injury. As long as there are nurses on staff who are familiar with everyone's limitations, you shouldn't have to worry about your mom overexerting herself.


Even if your mom's health begins to deteriorate in the future, you won't necessarily have to move her to another facility. Find a place with the capacity to care for your loved one if something drastic occurs, such as dementia.

In the event your mom begins showing signs of severe memory loss, you might have to move her to a different department within the assisted-living facility. She can then receive the special care she needs. However, moving to another floor is less extreme than having to relocate her altogether and will be less emotionally trying for both of you. 


While you might consider having your mom move in with you, that might not be realistic. Your house might not have the features and amenities residents have access to in an assisted-living facility, such as a bedroom on the first floor with no stairs to climb. You can still visit your mom daily, but you won't have to rearrange the flow of your home to care for her -- even though you would.  


If possible, keep your mom involved in the search process for the assisted-living facility (like Harbor View Home). She will feel as though she's part of the process and not completely dependent on others.